What is it about celebrity that often results in a pattern of self-sabotage and public humiliation? What drives the crash and burn of those who seemingly have everything going for them? Celebrities have success, fame and the financial resources to live a rich delicious life. Why, then, are so many famous people unhappy, addicted to drugs or on a downward spiral spinning out of control as they destroy everything they desire and worked so hard to achieve?
Some will say that the media that shines so much attention on a rising star then engages in a feeding frenzy to knock the celebrity off the very pedestal they placed her on. It is true that in the days of competitive 24-hour news channels and entertainment tabloid television shows the media is hungry for scintillating celebrity stories that will pull in ratings. However, the media did not take the drugs, pick up the hooker, have a public temper tantrum or end up in jail for one reason or another. The celebrity behaved badly; made bad choices that resulted in unwanted or even humiliating outcomes.
“If it's never our fault, we can't take responsibility for it. If we can't take responsibility for it, we'll always be its victim.” - Richard Bach
The choices you make in life are based on your perception of yourself, your world and what's possible for you in that world. The egoic behavior often exhibited by famous people is often a means to hide inner insecurity. Some celebrities feel like a imposters, feel like they are frauds and it's only a matter of time before the public and their peers find out that they really aren't good, smart or talented enough. Or they don't believe that they deserve all the attention and wealth thrust upon them. What the public sees as arrogance, then, is often masked low self-esteem. Self-loathing guarantees a path of self-destruction. You only have to look as far as the lives of Michael Jackson, Anna Nicole Smith, Mariah Carey, and Mel Gibson to see examples of stars crumbling their careers and reputations with their bizarre behavior.
"Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right!" - Henry Ford
Simply put, if you think you are a fraud; if you think you are not worthy, you will unconsciously work very hard to bring yourself back down to a level of experience that matches who and what you think you are. You will Find Excuses And Reasons (F.E.A.R.) that will justify even the most bizarre incidents of behavior. "What was I thinking?" you will lament. Exactly, what were you thinking? What was the thought that resulted in the action that created the incident of self-sabotage?
Once you examine the thoughts that create your outcomes you will be able to reframe these thoughts to turn them into a structure that supports rather than undermines you. If you think you are a fraud with little or no real talent focus upon your moments of brilliance, when you have creatively expressed your full potential. Those are those enjoyable moments when you are 'in the zone' firing on all cylinders in the throws of doing what you love to do. If you think you do not deserve the abundance of wealth and/or opportunity you have, focus upon all that you have achieved. Just getting up every day and following your dream is an achievement! Learn how to love yourself unconditionally so you can accept the love and adoration shone upon you.
“Don't become a victim of yourself. Forget about the thief waiting in the alley; what about the thief in your mind?” - Jim Rohn
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Monday, August 24, 2009
Fear And Loathing = Celebrity Self-Sabotage
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